Jesus on gender and marriage

Our culture is roiled over controversies regarding marriage and gender. The Supreme Court has imposed sodomy-based marriage on the entire country, and policies in one municipality after another require fathers to accept males in their daughters’ bathrooms if the males think they are trapped inside a female body.

While these issues may seem complex, they aren’t. How do we know the answers are simple and straightforward? Because Jesus gave them to us.

In Matthew 19, Jesus answers our questions about gender. Now as you are aware, Facebook offers its users 51, 56 or 58 different gender choices (depending on who’s counting). Included are options such as “bigender, gender fluid, genderqueer, non-binary, pangender, two-spirit” and the ever-useful “neither.”

But Jesus cuts through all this fog and confusion by telling us flatly that there are two and only two genders. “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female…?” (Matthew 19:4). When Jesus asks, “have you never read,” He is referring to Scripture, for He Himself is quoting from the book of Genesis. In other words, Jesus’ guide for understanding gender was the word of God. And it should be our guide too.

Science corroborates Scripture at every turn on this subject, by the way, for every human being has either male DNA or female DNA from the moment of conception until the end of life. So Christ’s view of gender is not just biblically correct, it is biologically correct.

Likewise Jesus slices through all the sturm und drang regarding marriage, again by quoting Scripture. “Have you never read that he who created them…said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh?’” (Matthew 19:4-5).

It’s impossible to get clearer than that. Marriage is the union of a man (that’s one man) and his wife (that’s one woman). You have the word of Jesus on that.

Let’s also not miss that Jesus uses the phrase “from the beginning.” Marriage as a man-woman institution did not evolve and gradually develop over the eons of time and cultural experimentation. It has always been, from the dawn of time, from the first man and first woman in all history, the union of one man and one woman. You can’t “evolve” upward from that; you can only devolve into some lower and inferior and clouded understanding of marriage.

Marriage has always been a man-woman institution and will be until the end of time. What God has defined, man may not redefine. Any other kind of “marriage” is a counterfeit, a fake, something bogus, something pretend. It is not and never can be the real thing.

You will find that ultimately people on both sides will cite some authority to support their position. It might be some politician, it might be some psychologist or psychiatrist, it might be some academic from Harvard, it might be some historian, it might be Lady Gaga or Mark Zuckerberg of Facebook. Worse, it might even be the Supreme Court of the United States. So let’s not pretend that only one side in this debate makes an appeal to authority. We all do.

Our appeal to authority is an appeal to Jesus Himself. His position on gender and marriage is clear, unmistakable, and authoritative.

The question in the end is not complex at all but very simple: when it comes to gender and marriage, I can listen to Facebook and the Supreme Court or I can listen to Jesus.

Bottom line: to those of you who vigorously and even hatefully disagree with me about gender and marriage, your issue is not with me. It’s with Jesus. Maybe it’s best if you take it up with him.

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  1. Carson LeDuc

    November 17, 2015 9:26 am at 9:26 am

    This is a weak argument at best.
    To begin, the scripture which you quote, (Discussion about divorce and marriage) is a passage where the main purpose is to set *precedent* on divorce. While TWO verses speak of a man joining his wife in marriage, the rest of the TWENTY SIX verses of the chapter deal with other issues, and the other 12 passages on marriage and divorce are about divorce or life focused on devoted single-hood.
    Furthermore, in the same chapter, verses 25 & 26 are contextualized with the story of the rich man, a man who wanted to follow Jesus but did not want to give up his riches in order to do so. Verse 25 says (NLT) “the disciples were astounded ‘then who in the world can be saved’ they asked” 26 Jesus looked at them intently and said ‘humanly speaking, it is impossible. But with God, everything is possible.” Jesus the Christ did not come to earth and die on a cross suffering all of man’s sin for you to say one person will not inherit the kingdom of God because of ANY sin which you believe they didn’t repent for. So long as a person has a relationship with God and asks Jesus to intercede on his behalf, I believe Jesus will continue to call and hang out with the murders, the prostitutes, the tax collectors. He didn’t come here to earth to make a show of how humble he could be! He came here to show that he LOVES EVERYONE, everyone is welcome to have a relationship with Jesus.

    As a final point, you say “Marriage as a man-woman institution did not evolve and gradually develop over the eons of time and cultural experimentation. It has always been, from the dawn of time, from the first man and the first woman in all of history, the union of ONE man and ONE woman”
    To this I say, have you opened your bible recently? Jacob had TWO WIVES and TWO CONCUBINES in Oder that he could be children because of the promise God made to his grandfather Abram as he transitioned into Abraham. Just as a rather small example of how marriage is depicted in the bible (not mentioning girls being forced to marry their rapists by law, etc.) I agree, God does not change who he is, ever. However, God did not condemn nor strike historical people dead for the reason of having more than one wife. Culturally, this is not necessary for the world now days. We needn’t populate the earth in large quantities anymore.

    The issue of homosexuality is not a matter which the bible teeters on nor depends on. Jesus himself never once mentions this “issue.” Just like he never mentioned if non-vegan ism is a sink yet some Christians believe this. Cultural issues are not always a matter of life and death. And when it comes to sin – not all are interpreted correctly. Likewise 1 John 5:17 “all wicked actions are sin, but not all sin leads to death.”

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