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Homosexual relationships cannot satisfy the purposes of marriage

As the Supreme Court contemplates imposing homosexual marriage on the entire nation, and as Americans think about public policy on marriage and the family, it’s worth pausing for a moment to consider what the fundamental purposes of marriage are.

Unless we, and the Supreme Court, know what marriage is for, we won’t know even how to think about the issue of homosexual “marriage.”

As I have written before, there are three purposes for marriage: companionship, sex and children.

When God created Adam, he said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make him a helper suitable for him.”

Marriage is not first of all about sex or children, it is about God’s design for male and female to be in paired married relationships where they may know the joys of intimate relationship. Husband and wives are friends first, lovers second and parents third.

Abundant social research confirms that heterosexual married couples are happier and healthier, are more prosperous, and enjoy longer and more stable lives than their cohabiting or homosexual counterparts

In contrast, same-sex partnerships are notoriously unstable, short-lived and risky. Even “monogamous” same-sex couples in one Dutch study reported that they had an average of eight outside sexual partners a year. Forty-three percent of homosexuals report having had more than 500 sexual partners over the course of a lifetime. In other words, same-sex relationships characteristically fail to satisfy even the companionship purpose for this most sacred of relationships.

The second purpose for marriage is sex. “The two,” God said, “shall become one flesh.” Sex is God’s idea. He invented it. He likes it. He created it for our enjoyment and pleasure as well as for procreation. It is perhaps the most powerful drive we experience.

Because of its power, members of a society need to know that there is a place where sexual expression is legitimate and will be endorsed by the rest of society. That place is marriage.

Our culture instinctively recognizes this. Even in Hollywood there is no scandal when a famous actor sleeps with his wife. It’s when he sleeps with another man’s wife that tongues begin to wag.

Harnessed and directed into the companionship that only a husband and a wife may enjoy, sexual expression becomes a powerful source not only of life but of connectedness, bonding and intimacy.

The only incentives a rational culture ought to offer, when it comes to sexuality, are incentives for men to marry women and to stay married once they do. Thus public policy should be directed at strengthening the institution of marriage by rewarding married couples with protections and privileges that are not awarded to any other kind of coupling.

While on a sadly superficial level, it may seem that homosexual couples may be able to fulfill the sexual purpose for marriage, the kind of sex in which they engage is inherently risky for human health and contrary to nature. The human body was not designed by the Creator (nor by evolution, if that’s your view) for the kinds of uses to which it is put in homosexual encounters.

It is no wonder that there are a host of pathologies associated with homosexual sex, not the least of which are AIDS and a frightening cluster of sexually transmitted diseases. According to the CDC, homosexual sex remains the number one risk factor for contracting HIV/AIDS. The health risks alone should cause us to reconsider our headlong embrace of marriage based on the infamous crime against nature.

Finally, the third purpose of marriage is procreation. “Be fruitful,” God says, “and multiply and fill the earth.” The final purpose of marriage is for a man and woman to conceive children through sexual intimacy, bring these children into the world, and together raise them to adulthood.

When a married couple fails to conceive, it’s a tragedy, and our hearts go out to them. But conception through homosexual sex is a biological impossibility.

We know that the optimal nurturing environment for children is in a home where they are raised by their biological parents who are married to each other. Even secular researchers confirm that moms and dads each have something profoundly unique to invest in the lives of their children. Children need both a mom and a dad, not two of one or two of the other.

Mark Regnerus of the University of Texas-Austin conducted the most extensive longitudinal study ever done of adults who had been raised in same-sex parenting environments. His research revealed that children who grew up in such settings fared worse on 77 out of 80 possible outcomes compared to children raised in intact biological homes.

No caring, compassionate society would deliberately place vulnerable young children into a home with a missing mother or father, but that is exactly what every gay adoption does.

Bottom line: marriage is about companionship, sex and children. Gay “marriage” cannot legitimately fulfill even one of these three purposes. It is altogether right and rational for society to endorse only man-woman relationships with the label as well as the benefits of marriage.

God defined marriage at the dawn of human history and has never changed his mind. What God has defined, man must not redefine. Let’s hope the Supreme Court is perceptive enough to agree.

 

10 Comments

10 Comments

  1. Chuck Anziulewicz

    March 22, 2015 9:10 am at 9:10 am

    “As I have written before, there are three purposes for marriage: companionship, sex and children.”

    Yes, Bryan has written this before. Countless times, as a matter of fact. The same commentaries and worn-out arguments get recycled over and over again, despite the fact that they’re so easily knocked down.

    Companionship? This is a human need that pertains to all people regardless of sexual orientation.

    Sex? Well, of course NOW that Gay couples in most states can get legally married, they are choosing NOT to have sex until after they’ve properly tied the knot! Yeah, that’s it. What a silly thing for Bryan to say.

    Children? Irrelevant. Couples do not need to marry to make babies, and the ability or even desire to make babies are not requirements for getting a marriage license. Also keep in mind that countless Gay couples always have and always will raise their adopted kids to healthy, well-adjusted adulthood. If marriage provides a more stable environment for the raising of children, why deny adoptive Gay couples the option to marry?

  2. Jason Chenard

    March 28, 2015 1:13 am at 1:13 am

    I’ve been passingly aware of Fischer for quite a while, having seen headlines about all the horrible things he says about LGBT people, Muslims, Democrats, etc. But I’ve never actually read a whole column.

    Wow. This dude is bats**t crazy. Like, out of his mind nuts. Why is he even out in public? Shouldn’t he be institutionalized?

    • David

      March 28, 2015 6:21 pm at 6:21 pm

      Jason,
      No offense, but that is the most idiotic response ever! And unfortunately the response that leads to Totalitarian dictatorships of likes of Stalin and Hitler. Anyone who speaks against the party is institutionalized, called nuts, marginalized, imprisoned, put in reeducation camps, etc. Is this really how seriously you take the liberties you have in this country?

      Marriage is a Judeo Christian institution, That is why Christians are so upset about all these rules on LGBT weddings. Most Christians are not opposed to Homosexuals joining in committed relationships, But DO NOT call it marriage. It Just does not fit the definition.

      We as Christians also see Homosexuality as a sin, One that the almighty creator God calls an “abomination”. As such, we oppose this sin vehemently. But we are not going to send you to the loony bin, or Kill you if you are gay as the Muslims do.

      Instead, we view it as a symptom of a society that denies the very existence of God. Part of that problem rests squarely on the shoulders of the church in Modern western civilizations which have compromised their faith to the point of Losing their saltiness. In other words, the salt no longer stings the wound like it is supposed to. Nor can it heal that wound like is capable of doing. In fact, some of the churches have even contributed to the spread of this wound around the world, by harboring pedophilia and religiously promoting unnatural abstinence in its followers.

      I know you do not like to read, but may I recommend that you read the Bible sometime…at the very least verses 18 through the end of the chapter at the link below. If nothing else, It describes the modern liberal to a tee.
      https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Romans+1&version=ESV

      Perhaps, a little salt on your wound will do it some good.
      God Bless.

      • Really

        April 13, 2015 6:22 am at 6:22 am

        David,

        “And unfortunately the response that leads to Totalitarian dictatorships of likes of Stalin and Hitler. Anyone who speaks against the party is institutionalized, called nuts, marginalized, imprisoned, put in reeducation camps, etc. Is this really how seriously you take the liberties you have in this country?”

        The holocaust targeted Jewish people, Romani, and homosexual citizens. None of these people called hitler Mean Names, you are literally comparing someone calling someone crazy to the Holocaust and a massacre of minorities, including homosexuals. There are no reeducation camps for Christians in this country, as they are the largest, loudest religious group. There /are/ multitudes of gay camps with abusive treatments to ‘reeducate’ children against homosexuality. Since you like reading, here’s some food for thought: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conversion_therapy , http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/03/04/psychology-today-changes-_n_6802104.html , http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/11/11/ex-gay-therapy-un_n_6137076.html .

        You point your finger at the current bad guy of the spotlight to divert from the topic, but that implies that America somehow (pretending that we haven’t talked about conversion camps) is absolved of any guilt for actively targeting homosexuals, just disapproving from afar. Why is it then, that just last year a major trending article topic was on the number of states, after the Supreme Court ruled anti-sodomy laws were unconstitutional for giving cause to witch hunts on gays, still upheld those unconstitutional laws? http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2014/04/21/12-states-ban-sodomy-a-decade-after-court-ruling/7981025/

        In addition, an article comparing different states limitations on our god given, state approved free speech about homosexuality to the anti-gay propaganda laws that were being criticized just last year, in 2014: http://thinkprogress.org/lgbt/2014/02/03/3241421/9-state-gay-propaganda-laws/

        “Marriage is a Judeo Christian institution, That is why Christians are so upset about all these rules on LGBT weddings.”

        Does that mean wedding ceremonies and traditions in China: http://www.travelchinaguide.com/intro/social_customs/marriage/ , http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chinese_marriage

        or religious weddings for worshipers of Hindu: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage_in_Hinduism , http://www.hinduwedding.info/marriage-ceremony.html

        or religious weddings for Jewish people: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jewish_wedding , http://ohr.edu/1087

        all of the above cultures having had these rituals for far longer than Christianity has been around, are you saying that somehow, Christian guidelines somehow should be what the United States of America should follow for what goals a married couple should follow? Or rather, as we’ve been following for all marriages and surprisingly, other laws, we have a separation of Church and State, meaning all religious groups do not get to impose their standards on laws. Marriages can be had between people who are shockingly not religious at all, since in most modern nations, it’s a legally binding contract on tax papers, and I’m not carefully transcribing my religious beliefs when i file my taxes at the start of the new year. To elaborate;

        “Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a socially or ritually recognized union or legal contract between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between them, between them and their children, and between them and their in-laws.[1] The definition of marriage varies according to different cultures, but it is principally an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually sexual, are acknowledged. In some cultures, marriage is recommended or considered to be compulsory before pursuing any sexual activity. When defined broadly, marriage is considered a cultural universal.”

        • David

          May 5, 2015 1:16 pm at 1:16 pm

          First of all, Hitler was a socialist. If you know anything about history, he was not a Christian, but rather an occultist. He Put Christians into Concentration Camps along with Jews, Homosexuals, freemasons, Gypsies, Catholics, etc. Anyone who did not think like he did. This is the definition of totalitarianism…Total control of the subjects. Our President is a totalitarian socialist Just like Hitler. He wants to tell us what, how, where, why we are to believe. This is tyranny, not liberty.

          All our liberties come from God, our constitution says so in this country. They do not come from the government. This country was founded on the Judeo Christian ethics. Like it or not, this ethic states that Homosexuality is an abomination. The Judeo Christian narrative, AKA the Bible clearly States that God created Marriage between a man and a woman, and that a relationship between a man and a man or a woman and a woman is NOT a marriage BY DEFINITION. This was defined at creation, by the Judeo Christian God, which occurred before there was a China or a Sumer in the world. Thus Marriage is a Judeo Christian concept as defined by the constitution we live under.

          Now until that constitution is declared null and void, or you can prove beyond a reasonable doubt that there is no God, Then Homosexuality is violating the very ethic on which this country was founded, and the constitution thereof. Homosexuality is no different than pedophilia, and beastiality, and rape. If rights are extended to Homosexuals based on their “dignity” as is the current argument before the SCOTUS, then the dignity of the pedophile is also being violated. Why can’t a Man who loves a 12 year old have that same dignity? Or a Muslim who rapes a 12 year old Girl because the Koran says its OK, and they are following the example of Mohammed? Do you see how your logic is opening a can of worms?

          We have a freedom to practice our religion in this country, so long as it does not violate the constitution of this country. to undermine the basis for the constitution is to undermine the very fabric that holds this civilization together. This opens the can of worms of lawlessness, totalitarianism, and anarchy, if there is no higher moral authority than our government, or man.

          May I suggest you go and talk to someone who has lived through this. I HAVE. BHO, and the progressive movements are following exactly the same path that Stalin used, and Hitler and Mau. They are responsible for more murder than any other leaders in all of human history. You are merely being one of their useful idiots to undermine and Attack God. This is why Marxism had to get rid of God first in those societies.
          Just like Hitler killed off the leaders and members of the SA, when he received supreme authority, replacing them with the SS, so too, will the useful idiots be killed off that are promoting lawlessness and Anarchy such as yourselves. That is why the homosexuals ended up in the concentration camps….do you get it now. Totalitarianism always requires an enemy to be fought in order to maintain their power….war is peace to them. Do you really think he is going to put up with anarchy and Chaos then?

          Look at Arab spring. He orchestrated that. Now they are calling what is happening in Baltimore as “Black spring”. The goal is to bring anarchy and chaos to the streets so that the dictator can rise to power and bring “peace and safety” and be heralded as a savior. Whether you like it or not, the Bible speaks of this occurring prophetically. The Beast rises to power this way.

          So, you are welcome to be an atheist, and a homosexual, and I as a Christian will not throw you into prison for being one. BUT, there is a consequence that you must pay for your sin, Just as there is a consequence I must pay for my sin. The consequence of Homosexuality is indignity here and now, and death and Judgment. The consequence of atheism is the wrath of God. Jesus gave us a WAY to avoid those consequences and to be free from the bondage of sin, which is death. That is the Gospel (Good news) of Jesus Christ. He came to save that which was Lost. If you want real liberty, it is at the cross where you will find it.

          God Bless.

      • Jason Chenard

        April 15, 2015 6:49 pm at 6:49 pm

        Ignoring the ridiculousness of your Hitler/Stalin premise… Are you saying that when you read this article, BF’s arguments seem cogent to you? I hope not, for your sake.

        “Marriage” as a social construct predates all the Abrahamic cults by many thousands of years. So it it not a Judeo-Christian “institution” to any greater an extent than it is for any other religion, including much older ones. I will say that the Catholics have by far the nicest churches for weddings, though, at least to my eye; All that rainbow-colored stained glass…

        As to reading the Bible: No thanks. I’ve read it before, and it holds no interest, except as a historical curiosity. (Hope you’re using a nylon wallet instead of leather. No touching the skin of a pig!)

        And finally, for the record, when my husband and I got married last year after 13 years together, it was a marriage. We’re now married people. As in, married. After our marriage ceremony and celebration. It says it right on the certificate. Get it?

        • David

          May 5, 2015 2:03 pm at 2:03 pm

          Jason,
          You really should reconsider the perceived “ridiculousness” of my Hitler Stalin comment. You obviously do not see the gravity of our morality coming from the dictates of a man, rather than a higher authority. That is why this is such a hot button topic like Roe v. Wade. Once God is taken out of the equation, Tyranny ensues. Read my comment above.
          I Had a co-worker who was a member of the Hitler Youth. He said, After the war, it was like a veil was lifted off of us as to how Evil Hitler was and how deceived we were.” That very same veil is over this country now, And you as well.

          I do not agree with everything Bryan Fischer says, But I do agree that this case is a part of the Marxist socialist attempt to remove God as the authority from our constitution.
          The following is what I strongly agree with him on:
          ” God defined marriage at the dawn of human history and has never changed his mind. What God has defined, man must not redefine. Let’s hope the Supreme Court is perceptive enough to agree.”

          This probably makes no sense to you, since you are suppressing the truth within you that there is a God to begin with. But again, as the Apostle Paul wrote: “18 For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who by their unrighteousness suppress the truth.” Then you will know the truth first hand.

          Nevertheless, there is Good news, and freedom from the bondage of the sin you are living under, and that is through the shed blood of Jesus Christ on the cross. You see, that is what Homosexuality is, Bondage (You may be a masochist so you enjoy bondage, so that analogy seems appropriate here). All sin is bondage, and now you want to make all of this country to be in bondage with you, so that you can feel some dignity. Well, I am sorry, I cannot do that. Homosexuality is an abomination. It is unnatural, (against the laws of nature). You and your partner are not married in the eyes of God because that is contrary to the very definition of marriage as defined by the Creator God. It does not matter what your piece of paper says then, or even how faithful you are to your partner, What will matter when you meet your maker is that you rejected the Love of God for you, who sent his Son to die for your sins, and to set you free from the bondage of sin and death.

  3. Tony

    May 2, 2015 8:52 pm at 8:52 pm

    Hello. I just want to say that marriage has been around for thousands of years and in those years there has never been any historical evidence that two males are two females were ever wed until Rome and all they really cared about was themselves and physical pleasures of the body. They practiced homosexuality along with other pagan and brutal practices. Why would you even want to use these guys as a good reason to practice anything.
    Don’t forget how Christians in Rome were brutally tortured and murdered for there beliefs Nero was considered the worst. He would have coats of wax made for the Christians he captured put them upon stakes and burn them alive as well as many other and worst fates of torture before death. They had know tolerance whatsoever for anyone beliefs but their own if it didn’t agree with their own lifestyle.
    Rome had become entrenched in homosexual acts Homosexuality was always followed by profane practices and this is historically sound. You don’t have to look in the bible to see that this is true. Also as far as the pathological concerns of homosexuality and bisexuality those living in ignorance need to read publications for themselves especially ones publicized by the CDC and non Christian associated analyst. http://factsaboutyouth.com/posts/health-risks-of-the-homosexual-lifestyle.
    These people have been studying the homosexual lifestyle for years and no one can deny that 2 men in a monogamous relationship having unprotected sex with each other pose a much greater health risk than a man and a woman. Even in nature you do not see this unless you want to count dogs who hump anything and everything.
    Most people don’t want to mistreat gay people and it is a shame how people can be so mean to people. But most homosexuals aren’t any different. People who are homosexually active victimize people on a regular. If a persons view doesn’t suit with some of you picket, hurl insults disrupt their daily lives and try and get them expelled or fired and even want their business to suffer even if they are okay with serving or hiring you. You are always acting like the victim while trying to shove your lifestyle down peoples throat who don’t agree with you. Also just for the record I don’t hate any person, gay Muslim, Hindu are whatever their religious practices may be but just like them I believe what I believe through facts are religious belief homosexuality is unnatural (that which is contrary to the laws of nature) and is something not to be encouraged. JUst because people in the past practiced it doesn’t mean it is okay. If you look through the history of homosexuality you can see how they enjoyed the young and that is true even to today. Do your research and don’t just stick to those who have an agenda for gay rights.

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    February 24, 2016 6:28 pm at 6:28 pm

    THATS ALL BULLSHIT…

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